Hello everyone!
Today I’m going to be diving deeper into something I mentioned in my recent post about balancing school and extracurriculars (go check that out if you haven’t already!): the importance of developing good relationships with people, especially adults and/or mentors in your life. It’s super valuable to get to know these types of people around you, but it’s also just important to know how to network with anyone. This is something I’ve been realizing and working on for the past few months, so I figured I would share what I’ve picked up so far.
- Be the one to initiate a formal introduction/starting conversation – This will make you stand out against your peers at the beginning of the year, and it demonstrates initiative. If you’re the one to go and strike up a conversation with your teacher before class, they will remember you when grading your assignments. They might have known you before, but this will leave them with a really good impression of you.
- Ask relevant questions – Whatever activity/class you’re in, if you’re interested in it, you’re bound to have additional questions about the material or topic. Ask these questions to prove you’re engaged and want to know more- the adult experts will be happy to answer them!
- Be an active listener – Everyone loves to know that people are listening to them. Whether it’s a lecture or a one-on-one conversation, make eye contact with the speaker and nod your head/give other cues that you are interested and listening.
- Pay very close attention when your teachers/advisers are talking – This goes along with being an active listener, but more specifically just paying attention to the way they talk about their interests and present material- this says a lot about them. Once you get a feel for their personality, you’ll have a better idea of how to approach them.
- Stay after classes/meetings to help/talk – After a club meeting, stay to help your adviser and officers clean up or plan for the next meeting. After class, stay behind to talk to your teacher about the day’s lesson and the latest assignments. These efforts further demonstrate how much you care, and will slowly help you get more glimpses into these people’s lives as you get to know them better.
- Make an effort to talk to them often – Most adults in your life are very busy and probably won’t make an effort to talk to you unless they see you in need of help. You should continue to be the one taking initiative to build your relationship through visiting their classroom/office to talk, emailing them when you have questions, etc.
- Always be kind and respectful – This goes without saying, but be nice and respectful to EVERYONE! Especially your elders- they have a lot of experience and knowledge which deserves a whole other level of respect.
I hope this mini-guide was helpful in giving you advice to use with your teachers and counselors this year, as well as any other people you may encounter in day-to-day life or extracurriculars. I’ve always been pretty shy and kept to myself or close to the people I already knew in a situation, but I’m really trying to work on it since it’s always been an insecurity of mine and I would love to be a more socially open person. That being said, it’s completely okay to prefer keeping to yourself and be introverted; just make sure you still have some social skills when you need them. 🙂 Let me know if you have any questions or requests as always, and I’ll be back with exciting content soon.
-Brooke